Showing posts with label thankful thursday. Show all posts
Showing posts with label thankful thursday. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

the bathroom stall door

"unless something is bleeding or on fire, i will not discuss it through the bathroom door" is heard at least daily at our house.   i joke about it as much as the next mom.   it is funny, but honestly, every single time i have to say it, another picture comes to mind.   every single time.   

i look at that bathroom door, which i hopefully locked, and hear the calls of "mom!" but i see the door of a public campground bathroom stall.   i feel cold, unfriendly, public tiles that i share with complete strangers beneath my feet.  every single time.   it makes me smile.  every single time.

let me explain.

a few years ago, we came to germany and lived with family.   family that was not used to having 3 kids and crazy, loud, silly, romping, laughing, chaos around.   it was not good.
some friends saw the situation and offered us their camp trailer to live in.   we took it!   we moved into a travel trailer in the german equivalent of a aok or koa camp site in america.   a place to park and a short walk to the lake any time we wanted.   it was also a walk to the bathrooms.   a walk with a wagon full of dishes to the washroom.   a walk to the showers with enough change to pay for hot water.   a walk with a wagon full of laundry and change to the laundry room.    a walk with empty bottles to fetch water to cook with.   

we spent 6 months in that campsite.   mostly winter months.   it was small.  it was hard.  it was cold.   we had hurricane force winds come through that year.   i remember laying in bed praying that the straps would hold everything down as i watched and felt the whole trailer shake wondering if the tent that was our front room would still be there in the morning.    it was better than where we had been.

we were fortunate to be near the bathrooms and in an end site where there wasn't much traffic.   living in a camper the size of most living rooms with no yard and an active 2 year old is crazy.   we were also fortunate to be able to get a stove and larger fridge about half way through.   no more just cooking on a hot plate, i had a fridge large enough for more than that days meals and oven to cook them.   whoo-hoo!   

we did finally move into a house.   whenever i stand at the kitchen sink that is lower than any american sink i have ever seen, washing dishes with a sore back, i think about how grateful i am that i'm in my kitchen.   my kids are playing in their rooms, or in the yard, or in the living room . . .there is a whole house and yard for them to be in!   seems silly.   we always had all those things before, but i never appreciated them until i didn't have them anymore.   
whenever i hear the kids whine about their rooms, i am glad they have rooms and not bunks that they call their rooms.
whenever i send my youngest out to play, i am relieved that he can go play in a yard and not a driveway full of gravel i share with the camper next door.
whenever i work on the ever present mountain of laundry, i am grateful that i only have to haul it from one room to another and it doesn't cost me 6€ to wash and dry one load.
whenever i turn on the sink, i feel so blessed for running water in my kitchen.   dumping noodles into a colander in the sink to drain them is a privilege we did not have for a while.   
every time mother nature calls in the night and i stumble to the potty, i am grateful i don't have to put on a coat and robe and shoes to trudge out in the night with key in hand so i can use a cold public stall.

it's been a few years, but i still see that camper and campsite as i move through my normal daily life.   i know that camper was more than a lot of people have and i was always grateful for it.   we grew as a family, we came to appreciate what we had.   i can put an end to most of the kids complaining with , "but it isn't . . . .".   
life is busier.   there is a lot more to do.    i still get caught up in the rush of life and forget how much i have sometimes.   there is one things that keeps me grateful.   there is still one thing that lifts my heart every time.   it's the morphing of my white wood bathroom door.   i hear a knock, or the call of "mom!" and that door changes before my eyes.   i see a metal stall door hanging there, like a ghost that materializes before me.   a piece of me just smiles and sighs with relief and  thanksgiving.   

one day, i looked around me.   the streets, and cars, and trees always the same and i thought, "what if tomorrow it was gone?"   what if tomorrow i lived somewhere else?  what if?   the trees looked greener that day.   i noticed the little beautiful hidden surprises that always hide in our hurried lives.   i saw the whole world as if the first time and i realized that it was new again.   

i'm still busy.   i'm still unorganized and chaotic.   lots of things still make me crazy.   i may never appreciate some of the annoying things of life, but now i see the really great things all around and it kind of overpowers the irritations.   not always, but sometimes.

close your eyes and imagine that you will have to leave everything tomorrow.   now, look around, walk through your day as if it's the last day that you will have it.   might not miss going to work, but i bet you would miss the paycheck.   might not miss the traffic but i bet you would miss the car.  you might not miss somethings, but there will be much much more you would. 

the next time you go into a public bathroom, imagine that being the only bathroom door you have.   when you say, "i just want to "go" in peace", imagine those other people's voices, strangers being on the other side of that door instead of your kids calling for mom.     you will still tell them that you are not discussing anything that isn't bleeding or on fire through the bathroom door.   you will also be grateful that you can. 

Monday, November 10, 2014

fiery darts!

q-tips!
have you ever thought about the amazingness of cotton on a stick?

clean your ears, nose, belly button and various body cavities with it
swab for dna
general nook and cranny cleaner
building material, nifty crafty stuff for skeletons, bunnies, sheep, stars, snowflakes, turkey tails, people, paintsticks, "what's that smell" game dosers, flowers, fireworks, and spider legs.   of all that funs stuff . . . . .

the most often used at our house- fiery dart!

ephesians 6:13-17
these scriptures talk about putting on the armor of God.   we did a family home evening about it that turned into a favorite past time.

 you need a volunteer to put on the armor -

13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;

if you don't know how to gird your loins, it is talking about the fact that everyone wore and still wears a robe or tunic.   there are a lot of different names for it, including dishdasha / dish dash, taub / thawbs, abaya . . .not my culture so i am not going to try and educate you on it or pretend that i know the difference between them.   i do know how to gird up your loins and the meaning though.

basically, if you need to run, work, or fight in a long skirt, you are going to trip.  ( i'll trip no matter what, but that's not the point. )   gather up your skirt, pull it forward and then pull the excess between your legs to the back.   pull the material to the sides and out about even so you can wrap it around and tie it in front . . .like a diaper.  you are girded!    
 
you can also just reach under and pull the back upü between the legs.   hoist it all up over the knees and pull the back of your skirt through the front of your belt.  this isn't going to stay as well though, this is like the quicky, "just gotta jump this fence" version

strap a pillow to your volunteer with tape and if you happen to have a nice full skirt, gird 'em up


too

15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

put your shoes on!   even better, a pair of rubber boots, just cuz



16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

we used the lid to a storage bin, you can use a garbage can lid ( if it's clean) or whatever.



17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:

slap a bowl on their head, you have a helmet

now, where are the q-tips coming in?   THEY ARE COMIN' IN A BLAZIN'!

everyone else gets a straw and some of these fancy q-tips that we colored for effect ( and so the kids know which q-tips they get to play with and which  ones need to stay in the bathroom for regular use.   they steal my clean q-tips when they run out of ammo, little stinkers! )



load up the straw and you have fiery darts in a blow gun!

this game is so dang much fun!   they don't dress up anymore but they like to have these blow gun fights all the time!   i bought them a couple of the cheapo packages to use and they have to pick them back up and keep using them until the cotton falls off.   no reason to waste good ammo.   they still snag a pack from the bathroom occasionally, but they are good about asking first.

i would be completely remiss if i didn't show you the rapid fire gun my son made from legos.   he is continually making improvements to it.   it just holds several straws together and he can blow down the line like pan pipes and fire however many one right after the other.   he thinks he is very clever!   ( he is )




that is my gratitude for the day.  i hope you never think about q-tips the same way and i even hope you have a little fiery darts war.   it's too much fun to miss!












Thursday, November 6, 2014

bowl me over!

today, i am grateful for bowls. have you ever thought about how great bowls are? 
soup, rice, cereal . . . . all the sloppy stuff you wanna eat is perfect for a bowl. 
use it to mix cake, bread, cookies, dressing, paper mache glue . . .
contain jewelry, beads, legos, pins, marbles . . .all those little tiny parts that would escape otherwise.
spin a marble around it in and turn it over, make a hat, catch the leaks, soak the whites, catch a spider, make barbie a swimming pool or a skatepark, use it as a form for that paper mache, bail out your boat . . . .
i am really grateful for bowls

Thursday, December 19, 2013

grateful for jersey knit

i have been a total slacker lately with my gratitude.      such is life.
a few weeks ago, i made a jump rope for my tomboy princess out of jersey knit, (t-shirt material).  
http://plaidipusmound.blogspot.de/2013/10/homemade-jump-rope.html
it worked great and came back to help me this week.

my shoelaces were wearing through . . . had worn through and been tied several times.   then my little blonde curls wore my shoes, broke the lace again and lost the end so i didn't have anything left to tie.   i was in the middle of something when it happened and didn't really think about it . . .until i had to go somewhere.   stink!   ironically, i had to go pick up the blonde curls when i remembered that the blonde curls broke my laces.  option: wear the hubby's shoes (too big) , wear sandals in the cold and wet (barefoot maybe if i didn't have to go into his school but not sandals.  barefoot is ok no matter the weather for a few minutes, but sandals in the cold, no. and i was going ride my bike), so, fix it is what we have left.    yah for the jump rope experiment.
i just cut a strip off of the same sheet i used for the jump rope, and laced 'em up.   i cut the end really slanted and used a crochet hook to pull it through faster.   you could use tape on the end for an aglet if you wanted though.   it totally didn't match, not really a problem for me.   i'm not fashion conscience.   my pant legs were long enough to hide it anyway.   i just have to put in, this is not a long term fix.   i had to fix my shoe twice before remembering to go buy laces.   i did want to see how long they lasted though.   not long.

the point is not the shoe laces.   the point is doing what you can with what you have, thinking outside the box, applying past experience to present situations that may seem totally unrelated.
the point is not fencing yourself in with the easy way, the normal way, the usual way, the everyday.
the point is it may or may not work, but you tried it, you learn from your failures.   and seriously, this failure was seriously cool!

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

the truly creative thinker



this last month, i was able to join in a great webinar from amber kane.   the original broadcast ended up with several technical problems, but that happens.   she re-recorded the whole thing and posted it here-
creative class webinar
password: thecreativeclass

i finally got to watch it today and loved it!   i also watched a conversation she had with tara gentile about marketing.   the-customer-perspective-with-tara-gentile   also great.

you may ask what the first one, on creative and divergent thinking has to do with marketing . . . i made several connection but that's just the way i think.   so i wanted to share both with you and then give you my tweaked version and vision.

first, divergent thinking.   this was great because i came to understand why i do the things i do, the way that i do them.   there are 3 practices she covers in the video that research says divergent thinkers do.   seriously, watch the video.

the first thing she talked about was the paperclip test.   personally, i think a creativity or divergent thinking "test" is an oxymoron but whatever.   it was fun too.  you name as many things as you can that you can do with a paperclip.   little kids can come up with over a hundred things usually, but only 2% of adults can.   i had to make myself quit at 136 because the kids got home from school and i really needed to get things done.    that was a fun adventure though.   i had actually done about half or more of the things i wrote down.   divergent thinker, a.k.a crafter, a.k.a. cub scout leader, a.k.a. mom . . . .

ok, first divergent practice - get out of your comfort zone.   this is why you don't get patterns from me.  i don't use them.   i just dive into stuff.  i see something and think, "wow!    all of these images and great ideas are popping into my head, i'm going to try them all at once!"   i have always been willing to try new things but i still had a comfort zone.   then we moved to germany.   i was hurled out of my comfort zone at light speeds.  i kept thinking i can't do this anymore and yet, there i was.   still alive and kicking because i don't know how to lay down and die.  so, now, what comfort zone?   ok, somethings are easier than others, but i am learning to walk over comfort lines without much thought.   (please don't confuse comfort zones with moral codes or creeds.   two really different things and one should be challenged, the other not.)

another practice she mentioned - write things down.   everything!   ideas come to mind and i have to record them.   which is why i am up at 11pm writing a blog post instead of sleeping.   my brain just wouldn't shut off until i got it out of my head and onto print.

another one that was new to me but i am having tons of fun with is image streaming.   it's like a rollercoaster in your head!  wheeeee!  the theory is that you have images running through your head all the time but tend to zone them out so you can get things done.   thank you schooling and fitting in.   when you image stream, you close your eyes, and the first image you see, describe it in full detail.   use all five senses and speak out loud.   it doesn't need to be actual, "the chair is blue" stuff.  it can be things it reminds you of, things you feel or hear or smell when you see the image.   it's lots of fun.     i'm going to come back to this one so don't lose it.

the other video is about marketing.   i run businesses online so this was interesting to me.   as i watched it though, i saw the two combining.

the interesting thing that she said about marketing is that instead of target markets you should listen to target conversations.   so, you still need to know who you're trying to sell to but you need to know how they communicate so you can speak their language.   (again, watch the video, even if you're not selling anything.  i'll tell you why in a just a second).   it doesn't mean lose your own voice but know how to communicate, the language that the target uses so you can see their own language to get their attention and get across important info.

the second point of the video (at least what i got out of it) was that instead of trying to tell someone about your product, tell them about what matters to them.   the result!   "i don't want to know that it's a great product, i want to know what it does for me."

ok, now why marketing is useful to you no matter what you do.  i am thinking and talking as a wife/mom/teacher because that is my thought process but you can translate this to co-workers, teachers, etc. anyone you want something from.  isn't this a dirty marketing trick?   well, no, it's better communication.   you want your kids to clean their rooms, do their homework etc?  you want something from them.   you want your husband to listen, fix the whatever is broken, yada etc?   you want a good grade from your teacher?   well, there you go.   you want something.   this is better communication.

so, listen to your target's communications with others.   facebook, other people, observe them from this perspective.   i really want you to pay attention because each person communicates with each other person differently.   my son doesn't talk to me the way he talks to his sister.   my grandmother doesn't talk to me the same way she talks to my uncle.   this is a bonus of paying attention to how some people interact.   you will find that you automatically get irritated by one person but totally let stuff slide with another.   if you change the thought process, you can change the attitude.   for instance, i have told my kids to talk to each other the way they would talk to me.    now, back at that marketing stuff.   use this different communication in those moments that you want them to pay attention, use their language and what interests them to tell them what the results are you are looking for, the results that you can give them if they will do what you need them to.   this has been said about communication before, don't just say what should (or shouldn't) be done but also why.   for me this means talking to my kids on their level and interacting with them in their communication method.   it means that i explain why i want them to do or don't do something and give them positive alternatives for the don'ts.    amber gave an interesting example of how her students gave her an unexpected result to her assignment.   i had this light come on, "know your target audience's language and way to communicate.   present the results not just the product.   this marketing scheme, this different communication thinking would help there too."    obviously, you can't necessarily know that the kids are going to freak out about a lesson but this is how my new thought process was born.

ok, so how do i wrap these two things together?   use the image streaming as a group!   i thought about the communication skills this could bring to our family or any group.   one person briefly describes the first image that comes to mind with all five senses.   everyone listens and forms the image according to what was said.(you could use a picture or object instead of having someone come up with an image if you wanted.   this might be a better alternative for larger groups.)      the next person takes that image and describes it with their five senses and so on.   stick with the original description.   you can't change what's in the other person's mind.   (also a good lesson)   we did it as a family while fixing and eating dinner.   we each took a turn starting and then went around describing what we saw from the original description.   this was fascinating!   i learned a lot about my kids listening to their images and their descriptions.   this activity really gets the creativity flowing and helps everyone to think differently.   you get some interesting observations from this.   my tomboy princess had a problem describing how her pony tasted.   that part was priceless, but i think she improved in just the few rounds we did tonight.  

 it was so much fun!   the kids said we have to start doing it all the time.     it' our new game.   this is such a multi-tasker.   it encourages the us to be more divergent thinkers.   it helps us focus on one thing and describe it.   it helps us to sense things with all five senses and be more aware of our surroundings.    it helps us focus on what the other people are saying.   that helps communication skills.   it helps us understand each other's language better so we can communicate better.    it gives us a better understanding of how others sense the world.   it helps us verbalize our ideas.  . . . .this can go on and on.  

it was really interesting to hear the kids describe something from their heads.  i think it really gave me insight into what goes on inside of them.   they have such different ways of describing things and such different things they chose to describe.   it was seriously awesome!   my son said he was going to tell his teacher about it and see if she wants to do it at school.   i think this would be a great team or class building game.   it would be a great way to learn more about a group or class.   this could be done out loud or written if you used a picture or object.   i think out loud encourages spontaneity but written would be good for a class that might be judgemental of each other.   there are several directions you could go with it.

another way you can use image streaming with your kids is to have your child tell you about the story in a book, or pictures they love, etc.   ask them how things feel, smell, sound, etc as they tell you about them.   you can use this when they tell you about a picture the have drawn as well.   i used this to spend time with my little one while doing the chores.   i wash dishes and he tells me about a book.   it's fun!    

i hope you check out the videos, there is way more than i can tell you.   i hope you can use the practices to better your life and the lives around you.

i have a couple last thoughts about communication and teaching.
when you want something, when you assign something, be clear, then, stick to what you have said.   just because you thought you covered the bases, you may have that divergent thinker that goes off somewhere else you didn't think of.     that's not their fault.   you have to respect their creativity and your own rules.
follow these 4 perfect p words and then hold them and yourself to them.   these may be an exercise for your brain as well.

purpose - what are we trying to get out of this?  give them something they are aiming for or what they are trying to accomplish with the task.

process - what are we trying to learn?   what way of thinking, working, creating, are we trying to practice here?   what do you want them to get out of this?   what is the process you want them to learn?

parameters - set the boundaries so they know where they can go.

probe - understand why that divergent thinker, did what they did so you can change your run at getting the message through.    understand why it didn't work so you can make it better.

here is the story as to why i have these 4p's.

in first grade, my teacher gave us a picture to color every month for the front of our folder for the month.     at first, she said we could color them any way we wanted to.   i colored my sky green and trees blue and grass orange.   i liked it that way.   she did not.

next, she told us we had to color them realistic colors.  ok, i had a picture of a group of school children.   i colored one's hair brown, one blonde, one black and still had  few to go.   i wanted diversity!  so, i decided that no two should have the same color hair . . . .but, it had to be realistic.     one of the kids in our class had great orange hair.   in my box of crayons, there wasn't an exact match but i used a basic orange. . . then i started thinking.   i had heard the term, "red hair".   so, one kid got red hair.   i had no idea that the kid in my class with orange hair was a redhead.   i  mean, that's stupid.   now, i had also heard the term "blue hair".   so, one of my kids got blue hair.   now, i was just 6 but it seemed to me that if someone with red hair married someone with blue hair, their kid would have purple hair.   oh, yes, the last kid got purple hair! . . . .
guess how much my teacher liked this picture.
i am still stumped as to why, but i was sent to the principal's office over this picture.  i am so not kidding you!

the principal actually talked to me about the hair colors and explained to me what i had misunderstood.   i felt like it was dumb and like she should have been there instead of me.  even at just my shy 6 years old, i was stubborn.   i spent a lot of time in the principal's office that year.

that year was horrible for me.   i cried all the time, but i refused to let my mom change classes.   stubborn.   i was determined to win, and i didn't want to leave the little orange haired kid that was also getting the brunt of her difficult year.

in this woman's defense, there were things happening in her life that a 6 year old could not have known or understood.   i saw her many times as a teen and adult.   she always hugged me and called me her favorite student.   i wondered why, until much later, when we found out about the personal trials she had going on that year.   i just accepted that she loved me and truly i loved her because of it.   i really hope she remembered it that way and that she didn't know what she put me through.   i was glad that i had the opportunity to grow under her.      i am thankful for the lessons i learned from it as i reflected on it from adulthood.   i am grateful that i could feel her love later in life.

so, there i leave you with lots of fun stuff to think about and ponder.   hopefully, some of it will be of use to you.   i am going to image stream it that way at least.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

perpetual positive propulsion packet

a few years ago, our family made a care package for the missionaries in our area at Christmas/thanksgiving time.   we did that every year for around 200 young people for (i think four) years.   it was such a great project!   we so enjoyed it.   we got help from others and were able to even get some donations from stores.    then, i moved. . . i no longer had the resources  the help or the sponsors i had worked so hard to get.   i do not give up so easy.   last year, living in a travel trailer, my daughter and i made a care package for the two missionaries in our ward.   this year, we have just continued as we could to make this book for as many as possible throughout the year.   i decided that i should share this book for anyone who wants to make one, twenty or two hundred for a college student, spouse, serviceperson, missionary, etc. . . or just for yourself.
i used a little 16 page book, literally, 8 pieces of paper folded in half with a cover.   

the first page was this poem and the paragraphs under it.   


GRATITUDE ATTITUDE
When an attitude of gratitude
is the thing that you've begun
you'll find that more than gratitude
is the thing that you have won
gratitude begets a thinking
that is higher than the trees
it points your thoughts to heaven
and tends to bend the knees
you'll find your spirits lifted
and your feet some off the ground
when you look for every blessing
the One who blessed you will be found
-KaRee Ogden


our family has used gratitude to carry us though the hardest of times. We name something everyday that we are grateful for. It has to be something new or a new reason to be grateful for something every day. We have written some of the things we are grateful for in the book but hope you will find lots of wonderful things and reasons to be grateful every day.



We've included some positive thoughts for you as well. We all have some days that are better than others. On those not so grand days, remember how much you are loved, find your gratitude, look for some positive thoughts. Add your own positive thoughts so you perpetually have positive propulsion.   

on every page, we wrote the things we are thankful for on the edges of the pages.   we used the list on thankful everyday for our list because, well, it is our list.


then, on every page, we wrote a positive quote from some of these sites.  i love the last one especially, last site and quote actually.




Think enthusiastically! Talk enthusiastically! Act enthusiastically! If you are not really enthused, act as if you are, think as if you are, and you will be! --Glen L. Rudd

That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of the thing has changed, but that our power to do has increased. -- a favorite saying of Heber J. Grant

Self-discipline is doing what you know you should do when you do not want to do it. -- President N. Eldon Tanner

Keep trying, be believing, be happy, don’t get discouraged, things will work out. -- Gordon B. Hinckley

Your attitude will determine your altitude. -- Anonymous




Don’t count your days—make your days count.
Elder Jay Jensen

God is very serious about joy in the lives of His children. - Neal A. Maxwell

All crosses are easier to carry when we keep moving. - Neal A. Maxwell

Meekness is knowing who you are and
not having to prove it. - Anonymous

The greater part of happiness depends on our disposition and not on our circumstances. -
Martha Washington



One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself. – -Leonardo da Vinci

You can never do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Every thought we think is creating our future.
– Louise L. Hay

Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.~ St. Francis of Assisi

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”
― 
MahatmaGandhi

I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”
― 
ThomasA. Edison


You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...”
― 
Dr. SeussOh,the Places You'll Go!

“Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.”
― 
NeilGaimanCoraline

It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
― 
GeorgeEliot

“Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.”
― 
Mother Teresa

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
― 
TheodoreRoosevelt

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
― 
WinstonChurchill

“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.”
― 
MayaAngelou

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!”
― 
AudreyHepburn

“Peace begins with a smile..”
― 
MotherTeresa

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
― 
RalphWaldo Emerson

“First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.”
― 
Mahatma Gandhi

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
― 
MargaretMead

“Whatever you are, be a good one.”
― 
Abraham Lincoln

“I can't go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.”
― 
Lewis CarrollAlicein Wonderland

“If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”
― 
MartinLuther King Jr.

“Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.”
― 
RobertLouis Stevenson

“All the darkness in the world cannot extinguish the light of a single candle.”
― 
St. Francis of Assisi

“Try a little harder to be a little better.”
― 
Gordon B. Hinckley

“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.”
― 
Dalai Lama XIV

If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person." 
— Fred Rogers



of course, we added stickers and decorated it.   in some of the packets, we added some kind of fun thing.  the packages have changed over the years. 
after my original posting of this, my friends asked where the pictures were.   so i added pics and thought i'd give a bit of background on how to organize a project like this.

the first year, was just my sister, mom, grandmother and i.   i contacted the president of the mission and asked permission and about any guidelines etc.
we gathered what we could on a limited budget and put them in brown paper sacks.   we had little toys, candy, cookies.   just small stuff.   we used a room in the church and spread out all the bags and went down each row of bags dropping one of whatever we had in the bag.   the next person went behind with another item dropping one of each in the bags and so on.


the next year, i asked my ward for help and was able to put some bigger snack items in the bag.   i had gathered things the whole year so i was able to get some bigger things, school supplies at walmart were great.  i used the lds.org website to ask for help at a stake level as well.   i had my sister ask for help in her ward.   we tried to spread the word a bit more.   with each year, we gained more experience and more support.   we had volunteers sewing Christmas socks for our project and the local food bank.  it was nice being able to work in conjunction with another group.   it really helped us gain support and volunteers.


then i put my pta years to work and asked the local lds businesses for help.   one of the deseret book stores let us put up collection jars.   the missionary store donated socks for 200 missionaries!   there was, of course, a tag that said where the socks came from and we sent a picture of the finished product to associated stores so they could use it for advertising.   we had people giving money and products to the project.   the stake primary pres wanted the kids of the stake to get involved in the service project so she had each primary assemble a small package that we put into it.   it had a toothbrush, a small toothpaste and a cute poem that said it was from the primary.   the young women put together positive thought book one year.   the elders quorum asked what they could do for the next year.   the relief society gathered packs of gum, so i didn't have to.   it was great, a lot of work, but great.   


here are a few more ideas for things that we put in our packages over the years.   some can be homemade, others require investment.   for instance, we purchased the fabric for scarves from the money raised by the deseret book jars.   they required work on our part to cut and fringe but they were a fun thing to do.


small toys like balls

gum
cookies
candy
jerky
snack packs of anything
tictacs
granola bars or mix
hot chocolate mix
travel sized toiletries-
toothbrush and paste
tissues
lotion
scarves
hats
bracelets
keychains
zipper pulls
magnets
small flashlights
sewing kits
first aid kits
positive thought books
bookmarks
homemade postcards or greeting cards
stamped envelopes
pen, pencils
notebooks
stickers
highlighters
post it notes
pencil toppers
pencil sharpeners
erasers

a few last tips for any project.


start early if you can but it doesn't take much to do something small.


get help.  recruit as many people as you can.   understand that if you get help, they may not do things exactly the way you want.   so with help, you give up total control.   but when you give up total control and get other people helping, you get more ideas, more time, more hands.   give people choices of how to help.  some have money, some have time.   accept both if you can.   delegating what needs done frees you up to do more.   usually, people want you to tell them what to do.   have a list of things people can do and just say, here are your options -

   
assembly lines are definitely your friend.   even with the books, i write one part, my daughter writes something, my son writes part.   you can see in the pictures that we laid out the socks or bags and just went down the line adding one of what we were carrying to every place.   it makes it go so much faster.   we reserved the gym for an entire day in order to get them put together.   if you don't have that kind of space, like we didn't for some years, do the best you can with what you have.   

   





 don't worry about things being perfect.  something will go wrong.    don't tell anyone and they probably won't even notice.




i built this project like i built my husband's business.   a little at a time.   looking for new resources    asking for help again and again.   start with what you have and work from there.   just work your way up.   i once had a salesman ask me how i expected to build a business without putting something out first.  i explained that i had already built a business without investors.   i have never had that kind of backing.  i just started with what i had and put some of what came out of it into the next thing.  be patient.   work your way up and out.   be happy with what you do have, with what you can do, make the most of it.


go take on the world, change your corner of it, extend your reach a little at a time and make a difference there.    


little update here - i have decided to print some instead of handwriting them.   there is just too much to do this time.   i found instructions on how to print a book when you don't have a handy program to do it, (like i don't have)   thought i would share - https://help.gnome.org/users/evince/unstable/print-booklet.html.en

Thursday, July 18, 2013

struggling thankful thursday


this week has been full of ups and downs.    this week i was hit with some info that i am something that i never considered myself.   usually, it's not too disturbing.   i have been called a good many things that others might consider not good.   this time, it bothered me.   earlier in the week, we were discussing german family, living in germany, etc.   our teacher put up some numbers that are considered poverty levels.   i have always struggled when it comes to money, that has never bothered me.   but when he threw those numbers up, i was surprised.   not fully prepared for it, just out of curiosity and almost a joke, i crunched the numbers per person for my family numbers. . . .
at first, it was just as i knew, we are struggling.   but then our teacher said something that struck me.   he said anyone that falls below the numbers is below poverty level.   i was way below those numbers, like a little over half maybe two thirds of those numbers.   those words started to sting for some reason.   i don't know why.   i consider poverty to be homeless, no computer, no cell phone, no food.   i may not have a laptop, or a modern cell phone, but i can still access the internet, call on the go and feed my family at a dining room table every night.    yes, we are struggling, but in poverty?!

after class, i cried most of the bike ride home.   i don't know why.

this has been klunking around in my head for the rest of the week.

but, life goes on, what do i care what someone labels me?   i had things to do.

i had treats for kids classes to make and a birthday party to plan.   oven is doing something weird . . . can't afford to fix or replace, working on fixing but until then  . . . .adapt!   so we made rice krispie treats, popcorn balls, anything that doesn't need baked.   no problem.

then, my klunking struggling question was halted today.   the tomboy princess came home and told me that the kids in her class think it's great that she always brings something different than everyone else.

that's it!   i get it!   my struggling makes me creative.   it makes me work outside the norms.   it makes me think, it makes me work, it makes me push my limits!

i realized as i was riding my bike to pick up the blonde curls because gas for the car is so expensive.   i realized again, i am being pushed to be stronger!  i am being pushed to be more independent!  i am being stretched in every way!   i would not do that to myself.   lack of monetary resources push me to be more!

today i am grateful for my struggling.   i do not accept the title of poverty.   i don't have to.   i don't have to feel myself a victim, or doing without.   i don't have to see my situation as hard and i don't have to accept anything that tells me otherwise.

seize the day, seize the struggle, take hold of anything that is in your way.   grab it, throttle it, then launch yourself from the crumbling heap.   take advantage of every struggle.   make it your hill top where you can see your world more clearly.

Thursday, July 4, 2013

biking thankful thursday

in honor of thankful thursday, today i am grateful for bicycles. i ride mine to school every day. it's cheaper on gas and better for my figure than driving. plus, no parking problems. 
here are a few more reasons i am grateful for bikes -
bicycle mechanics helped the inventors of the airplane which made travel really fast and brought my husband to me across the ocean. (how's that for a jump?)
mr. mcfeely would look silly on a horse.
bikes can be hooked up to power all kinds of things. i did that in school and just powering a light bulb takes some serious leg muscles. 
bike inspired motorcycles and i love those.
and just as an irony -oprah started my gratitude thing -i am grateful for bikes today - lance armstrong is a bike racer - he admitted to doping for his races to - - - -oprah! that's just a bizarre realization i made while typing. i am easily amused. 
have a great and grateful day!

just for fun -

6 person bike at faschings


another faschings bike - this one is technically a trike but it's all wooden!   ok, mostly wood, but still cool! 
  

a nine person bike in berlin that my son used to get around with his class.   nine people pedal and the rest stand in the middle for a free ride!   how funky is this?

Friday, June 28, 2013

b+

this is my attempt to bring something positive into the world.   it started with me just trying to overcome the negativity in my home.   then i decided to create an event on fb for it.   you can find that here- https://www.facebook.com/events/580145282006358/

as soon as i created it, i had a huge response, so i decided to keep it updated with some positive practices.   if response is big enough, or i get the bug to do it, these will start showing up as pictures and a group will be created.   i'll keep you updated.  




positive practice #1

say something positive to everyone in your house, your work place, and your family. a positive word can really change the day. don't forget to say something positive to yourself!



positive practice #2
think about times that you argue with someone you love. do you move farther and farther from each other as the argument continues and the "discussion" grows louder? 
holding a spouse or loved one's hand when discussing something can keep it from becoming a full blown fight.
this is sage advice given to me by a very wise man. i often use it on my kids as well. i enjoy hugging my teenager when he's mad at me. he usually ends up laughing.

this is a video i found on youtube that really illustrates the positive person, how we want to be, how we in our imperfect state really are, and how we can be better.
the civility experiment

positive practice #3 
please, thank you and you're welcome.
sounds simple but those little words have a big impact. use them often and with everyone.


positive practice #4
gratitude attitude! can't say it enough. when you are looking for things to be grateful for instead of things that are going wrong, you are bound to have a better attitude. 
 actually, i first saw this practice on oprah many, many, many years ago.   i didn't catch her show very often, but this was a good one.   they said to think of 3 - 5 things every day that you are grateful for and write it in your journal.   i did that and it really made a difference.   later in life, i renewed the practice again and again. 
   
recently, i started asking my kids every morning what they were grateful for.   we got to be kind of silly sometimes, (like "i'm grateful for that molecule of air right there"), but it was fun and really made a difference.   i don't drive them to school anymore and the practice has thus waned.   i can really tell the difference and i am making efforts to reinstate it.  

one thing i try to do is keep thursdays set aside for "thankful thursday".   i try to name something new, not the usual stuff and think of all kinds of weird reasons to be thankful for something.   it amuses me and reminds me of how many things there are to be grateful for.   it is really more than a positive practice and more like a positive work out.   

so, what are you grateful for today?

the next few are all related.   they are about permission and forgiveness.

positive practice #5
stuff happens, be aware of it, expect it, and then get over it.
there is a theory that we get upset because things happen that we were not expecting. the surprise angers us more than the thing itself. so, prepare for the worst - hope for the best and you'll usually end up somewhere in between.   


positive practice #6

give others permission to make mistakes.  nobody is perfect.   we all have bad days, make bad decisions and just generally foul things up.   when you let yourself accept that, you can get over the surprise, the initial irritation and just go forward.

positive practice #7

give yourself permission to make mistakes.   strangely, this might be the hardest.   we are harder on ourselves than on others.   you are going to make mistakes.  it's ok.   learn from it, apologize, move on.

quick break in the positive practices.   today, a friends asked me, "why are you so self confident?".   without pause, i told him, "my mother.  she was always telling me how wonderful i was."   he commented about growing up in a positive environment.   this got me to thinking, what environment am i creating?.   

what environment am i creating for my family, for my friends, for the people i come in contact with?   what environment am i creating for myself?   i know there are things i can do better.  
now, what environment are you creating?

positive practice #8

forgive others.   you don't know what kind of day they are having.   you don't know what kind of life they are having.   we are all motivated by the same things it is our perception that is different.     no matter what other do, is it worth it to carry the pain, sadness, the negative?   you do that to you, not them.   let it go, dump it.   it's not hurting them, it's hurting you.   it's not changing them, it's changing you.   do you want to give out that kind of power?

positive practice #9

forgive yourself.   ever have one of those days where your mouth runneth over, your a major social klutz or just totally screw things up and you have no idea why?   we are human.   the longer you hang onto it, the more it causes.   quick story: 
taking my driving test to become a school bus driver.   the very first thing i do is my best event.  i do it perfect every time in practice.   i totally foul it up.  i mean completely fail it!   big fat 0 points!   i am freaked out!   my trainer/tester sees my horror and tells me something that i have used many times.   she said (approximately), "let it go.   it's done.   if you keep thinking about what you did wrong, it will affect what you need to do in the future.   put it behind you.   just move forward and don't look back."   i went on to do the best i had ever done on the next parts of the test and passed.   from then on, i have always thought of that when things go wrong.   let it go.   it's done.   don't let it mess up what you can do from here on out.  

positive practice #10

smile.   i don't mean that fake smile mask.  i mean really smile.   especially when you don't feel like it.   when you smile, do it with the thought that maybe you can brighten someone's day.  smile at strangers to be friendly, smile at family because you love them, smile at friends because you appreciate them, smile in the face of those you're not so fond of and think of something evil to do to them . . .i mean, think back to permission and forgiveness

positive practice #11

service.   

Serve. More. Self. Less.
serve more selflessly
serve others more and yourself less
more service and less self 
more selfless service



another quick break in practices. i heard this description of all things light and good today and wanted to share it. think of yourself as a house. the world and negativity is the dark night. when you turn on your lights, your positive light, it shines and lights up the house. when you open the door, the dark does not come in, instead, the light shines out into the dark.

positive practice #12
it's not just what you say but how you say it.   the most popular one in the world is, "i love you but you make me crazy!".   now listen to it this way, "you drive me crazy, but i love you!"   nicer, isn't it?

positive practice #13

it's not just how you say it, sometimes it's just really what you say.   this isn't just, "if you can't say something nice, don't say nuttin' at all".   that's #14.   this is focusing on the good in your statements.   for instance.   we have started tell my little one to "touch nice" instead of "don't hit".   sounds silly, but focus words really make a difference.   another one that a friend told me about is, "slim down", "get healthier", or "tone up" instead of "lose weight".   focus words.  they require some creative thinking sometimes, but really worth it.

positive practice #14

if you can't say nutin' nice, don't say nutin' at all.   thumper's mom is really smart!  the truth doesn't always need to be said.   my mouth goes into over drive on occasion, (you would have never thought that of me, i know).    i try to control it, but i have noticed that as i try to think more positive things, more positive things come out of my mouth even when i'm not in control of it.   might not make sense, might be weird, might be totally insane and make people worry a bit, but it's usually positive.

positive practice #15

tip of the iceberg.   everyone needs somewhere to vent, somewhere to release, that doesn't mean it needs to be vented everywhere.   when talking to people, give them the tip of the iceberg, most people don't need to hear it and you don't need to keep telling it.   say you're working on something, maybe a couple of brief clarifications.   think about how much of the drama you want to put out there.   how much negative to you want to release into the space around you?   so often, we engulf ourselves in our troubles and forget all of the things that we can do, all of the good things we have and all of the options we have.   we spend more time looking for a good story to tell than a good solution.   often, we find solutions in looking to tell someone that it will be ok and playing up the positive in our conversations.   engulf yourself and your conversations in positive options.


positive practice #16
meditate.   seems so hippie, mystical whatever you may want to call it, but give yourself a some time to just listen to your own breath, the birds, the popcorn popping in the microwave, whatever calms and centers you.    ok, so quiet time doesn't happen much at my house, probably a common phenomenon.   sometimes the best meditation i can do is that 2 seconds of not opening my mouth when angry.   just a couple seconds of, "breath in, breath out," a little silent screaming, and i can actually do something constructive instead of just venting and making things bigger.    so, take a little chill time, even if it's only a few seconds.

positive practice #17

you are what you eat.   a good diet is definitely part of a good attitude, but not really what i'm talking about.   think about all the things you take into your attitude all day long.   music, tv, movies, conversation, news, books, magazines . . .yadda etc.   even though you may not be consciously listening or paying attention to it, your brain is taking it all in.   you can change channels, turn it off, leave a conversation, put down what you're reading, and limit the negative bombardment.   remember that all of that stuff has to go somewhere, it has an effect.   so, choose your soul food wisely.

not a practice, just an observation.

l.i.f.e. - L.I.F.E. - l.I.f.E - L.i.F.e - no matter how you write it, it's all in the same basic size.   each letter is in proportion to the others.   you can go through some steps to make one bigger than the others or in a different font, but that is our own doing and not the actual nature of the thing.   life is all small ups and down in the big picture.  yes, somethings seem life ending at the time.  yes, i have had times that i wondered why the world was still turning, why life continued as though no one else knew the great tragedies happening.   it's all part of the big word we call life and really, is just capitals and lowercase letters in our story.  what i'm trying to say is that we make more of things than they are sometimes, sometimes things just hit us harder than others.   given time, it evens out.   we adjust, adapt, and hopefully advance.   when we realize this during those times that seem we can not go on, we can see past the huge things and to the part, where life resumes.   that is how we get past the hard times and learn how to resume.

positive practice #18

charity.   most people think of giving physical things as charity and that's a great part of charity.   i think the part we forget is the charitable attitude.   when that guy cuts you off in traffic, flies by you like mad, or just says something rude to you; you can get upset and yell or whatever your negative response might be or you can take the positive, charitable route; "you must not have seen me", "hope you get where you're going safely", "you must be having a bad day, hope it gets better".     think about how many times you've had a bad day or done something stupid.  did the guy behind you honking help?   did the negative response help?  now, have you ever had someone give you a charitable response?   how did that help your day?   which do you want to pass on?

positive practice #19

this was actually given to me by a friend for the b+ event on fb.   she recommended sitting down and writing to yourself.   not just any letter, but instead, imagine you are able to speak to an older and wiser you.     don't think about it too much, just let it flow.   let your older self give your now self some advice.   what would you tell yourself?   would your future self want you to change some things?
i think this is an awesome practice.   it gives us a chance to get out of the now that tends to swallow us up and think about what is important in the long run.

  
positive practice #20
this goes with #19.   remove yourself from yourself for a moment.   if your friend, family, child, anyone that you love, was going through what you are going through, what would you tell them?   we are often so much more protective of others than we are ourselves.   we will stand up for someone else when in the same situation we simply accept the situation.   i have begun asking myself what i would do for my child if the same thing happened to them, then i do it for myself.   if i don't stand up for me, how can i expect them to learn to stand up for themselves?   now, don't turn bullies on me, but do stand up for what you believe in.    obviously, use tact,  politeness, and kindness.   of course, pick your battles, (that's another practice).   basically, just be the hero for yourself, that you would be for others.

positive practice # 21 

pick your battles.  my grandmother always says this.   pick your battles.   its a common discussion at our house.   some days there is a skirmish over everything and every action.   it gets a bit much sometimes.   there are going to be days like that in everyone's life unless you just don't have to see or hear or deal with other people at all.   it's just what happens in any and all relationships.   the disagreements are great and small, petty and important but the reminder is always the same, "is this important?   is it worth your time and energy?   is it going to change anything?   is it causing more contention than it is solving problems?   is there a better way to go about this?"   sometimes it helps, and sometimes, not so much.   we are still practicing here as well.
when up against anything, pick your battles.  here's another situation, i like the example of thomas jefferson.   he wanted to do a lot of things for the country.   one was public schools, another was to abolish slavery.   if he tried to abolish slavery, all other causes would be sacrificed because no one would listen to him any more.   so, he chose to let slavery go and work on the things that he had a chance of actually accomplishing, free public education.   do what you can, it will come

positive practice #22

a dear friend of mine was always quoting his father, "you can't call yourselves friends, unless you've really had a good fight and come out friends on the other side."  it reminds me that we are going to disagree, just gonna happen, it really is ok.   refer back to #'s 5 - 9.

positive practice #23
let go - there is a story about monkey traps.   the story goes that hunters put something the monkeys like to eat in a box/coconut with a small hole in it.   the box is then attached to the ground.   when the monkeys put their hand inside to grab the food, it goes in ok.   but when they try to pull out their hand with the food grasped in their fist, it will no longer fit through the hole.  if the monkey would let go of the food, the hand would slip back out, but they won't.   so the hunters can simply pick them up in sacks without a problem.   common positive thinking example because it does a good job illustrating the power of letting go.

so . . . let go . . .let go of control, sadness, anger, baggage, grudges, hurt feelings, negative thinking, hatred, unhealthy attitudes, addictions, revenge  . . . all things that do not help you, that hold you down, that make you feel less that you are. . . let go.

positive practice #24

walk in another's shoes - a.k.a. - empathy.
this is not only useful for understanding someone else's problems.   i use it mostly to remind myself that although someone might really annoy me, i really annoy someone else.   as wonderful as i am, i annoy someone.   just the way it is.   do i want them to be irritable with me?   do i want them to get angry with me?  do i want them to be rude, mean, tell me off?  not especially.   i appreciate patience, kindness, and, i appreciate empathy.   so, i try to have and be what i hope for in others, no matter what i get in return, i'm doing my part, and that's all i can do.


i have been thinking about that first break in practices, when a friend asked me about my confidence.   i answered that i had an awesome mom but as i have thought about it, i realize that is only part of the story.   i have always believed that you can't blame your parents for what is wrong with you.   no matter what, you make your own choices.   example - gavin debecker (author and owner of successful protection agency) wrote about an experience he had speaking in a prison.    he told them about his childhood, mother going from one abusive boyfriend to another until she got fed up and killed one of her abusers unknowingly in front of her son.   one of the prisoners rose and said, "you just told my life story.   why are you up there and i'm in here?"   Gavin responded, "choices".     so, although i have a wonderful mother that gave me an amazing start, the rest is choice.   what has guided those choices though.   that has really been rolling around my brain for the last few weeks.   i come to another story that i will shorten.   two farmers, one with straight rows in his field, the other not so much.   one asks the other about it and is told that he should choose something in the distance and use it as a guide.   the rows are worse than ever.   they talk again and the farmer says he did what he was told but the cow kept moving.   ok, choose your "thing in the distance" wisely.    (see- plowing straight  for the whole story).   


i contemplated all of this and came to these questions for you: who are you?   where are you going?   i don't mean tomorrow  or even next week, month, or year.  i mean long term.   i mean end story.   what are you aiming for?  i f you don't know, it's hard to direct the choices of today.  or, to quote the cheshire cat - 
"would you please tell me, which way i ought to go from here?"
"that depends a good deal on where you want to go"
"i don't much care where-"
"then it doesn't matter which way you go" 


positive practice #25
scream!   wait, not yet, hear me out first.   i don't mean scream at, just scream out.   we all have those days, i'm having one of those days.   i have not actually had the time to scream yet but in my head i have really been letting it loose for several hours now.   
to review- screaming at = negative, non-productive, and just not nice.
screaming out = positive verbal release of frustration that if kept in might lead to jail time

malala day at the un was today.   she had a lot of wonderful things to say that really impressed me.   i will be sharing a few of them as i can.   
"The terrorists thought that they would change my aims and stop my ambitions, but nothing changed in life, except this: weakness, fear and hopelessness died.
"Strength, power, and courage was born."
Malala Yousafzai

when you feed the positive, you starve the negative. let the negative die and nourish the positive to take it's place. we don't have to have a major trial to trigger change. don't wait for a trial to trigger change. trigger your own change. take things into your own hands. be your own power.

event finished, we had a lot of great people come and great feedback from it!   so - here is the group site for fb.   come join us in the + fest!https://www.facebook.com/groups/588496797869263/
also, i have stopped updating this post and put everything on a page -http://plaidipusmound.blogspot.de/p/this-is-my-attempt-to-bring-something.html